What are some signs that a therapist may have poor boundaries with their clients?
14.06.2025 10:25
Off the top of my ancient head:
Frequent phoning or texting of clients to “check up on them and make sure they’re OK.”
Disclosing feelings, fantasies, and experiences to the client in ways not related to the work the client is engaged in.
If there exists a “New York of Australia”, is it Sydney or Melbourne?
Failing to mention the client in supervision/consultation, out of fear the supervisor/consultant will advise return to ordinary healthy boundaries.
Serious disappointment when the client cancels a session.
Session-expressed curiosities about client details not relevant to the therapy.
What is the sluttiest thing your wife has ever done?
General Introduction to Boundaries from Panahi Counseling:
Routinely going over the time limit with certain patients, compromising the time for the next client.
Eager anticipation (or anxious anticipation) of the next session in ways that distract.
Did another parent ever tell you something about your child that you didn’t know?
Struggling with fantasies of deeper connections with clients, whether sexual or parental or other intense or intimate relationships beyond psychotherapy.
Obsessing about clients outside of work hours.
Sense of competition with persons who are important in the client’s life.
These items can happen fleetingly, briefly, in any therapy, but if they’re frequent, it’s definitely time for the therapist to get some good, solid supervision/consultation.